Yeah, you read that right.. and if that language offends you, BY ALL MEANS, turn around NOW.. because it only gets MUCH worse from here on out.
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Still with me? Ok, so I need to rand a little about people who do not appreciate the value of handmade things. I consider myself a pretty generous person. I realize it’s not very attractive to toot one’s own horn, but beep beep! It’s the one thing I LIKE about myself. (that and the naturally curly hair) I always have a project going for someone.. In my mind, every special person I know needs a quilt.. made by me. So when someone is sick, or getting married, or reproducing, I make a quilt. I enjoy it. I love giving quilts to people. I don’t ask for much.. I don’t even expect most of them to say thank you (although it’s nice when they do!) I don’t expect a card, and I certainly don’t expect the quilt to have a place of honour, hanging above the mantle. But the one thing I do expect is that the damn thing doesn’t end up on their floor in shreds with bits of dog excrement clinging to the edges of it! I mean really….And that’s exactly what I saw when I recently visited a family member. Really? I mean REALLY!? I’m not a dog hater.. (except for the idgit next door, and even then, it’s the people I can’t stand.. not the poor pooch’s fault) but I don’t want my handiwork to become their snack/shit pad!
Call me judgmental, but in the last 12 years, I have sort of come up with an evaluation and thus a bit of a mental list of the family members who will NEVER get a quilt gift from me unless they buy one..
Which brings me to my next point of rant.. Why do people think those who own sewing machines have the time and resources to work for free? Because that’s basically what someone is asking you to do when they convo you on etsy, asking how much it would cost them for you to make them a queen size quilt.. and then react with shock when you quote them a reasonable price for your time and materials. It reminds me of when my father was working as a carpenter and a lady actually thought he could build her a 20′ x 20′ porch for $100.. She said she’d throw in some brownies.. She was shocked when we told her that wouldn’t even pay for the wood and nails.
Do people REALLY not get it? Do they honestly think that because walmart sells cheap chinese crap quilts for $29.99, that they can commission a talented quilter to work for them for WEEKS, and get something made with quality supplies and pay them $20? People want quilt shop quality, at a walmart price.. That shit ain’t gonna happen. I understand the economy is in the shitter.. and things are tight everywhere.. But that especially means I can’t afford to work for nothing! I had a cousin who asked me to do this for her.. Design and make a quilt for her daughter’s room and she would “give me $20.” And she said it as if that gift of $20 was some act of charity on her part.. I told her there was no way I could do it for $20, but if she paid for the fabrics (I would supply the thread and batting) that I would be happy to make her the quilt. She thought I was being unreasonable. I asked her if she was smoking phucking crack. Oh, and I forgot to mention that was the first time I had heard from her in over a year, and haven’t heard from her since.. Good Riddance.
It’s a fine thing when I voluntarily make someone a quilt as a gift, out of my own pocket.. And I often do.. THAT’S the generosity of quilters.. It’s what I love to do.. We’re good people, (even though many some of us curse like sailors when we prick our fingers, drop our scissors, or spill our wine) That’s the love of quilting.. But, don’t take advantage of people… don’t expect someone to work for free..! Would you want to?